Okay, let's talk about pregnancy.

It has been made clear to me since the same freaking day Kirk and I got married that nearly everyone around me expects me to pop out a baby as soon as possible.

We were at a family function a few weeks ago and even after we made it clear that we both wanted to wait a while people still felt the need to give us umpteen reasons why we should go ahead and start.

-"Well y'all are married so why not?"

Yes, why not? Let's ponder over that one real quick.
1.) We don't have our own home to raise that child in yet.
2.) Neither of us are financially ready.
3.) Neither of us are emotionally ready.
4.) Neither of us are spiritually ready. Until I get the OK from God, I'd really rather not.
5.) We've only been married for a little over two months.
6.) I am just not ready to share Kirk yet.

7.) NEITHER OF US KNOW IF WE ARE EVEN CAPABLE OF HAVING CHILDREN. 

There's medical history in my side and in Kirk's side of the family that makes the entire situation iffy. I don't feel like finding out how much the odds actually do stack up against us right now.

-"Well y'all better start having kids, NOW. And I mean it. Your mother wants grandchildren."

To which my mother yelled from the kitchen, "Not now, thank you!".

After that conversation ended and more people began to arrive we were presented with two questions:

-"So how's married life?"

Oh great, it feels different and it's truly awesome to be married to my best fri-

-"When are y'all going to start having kids?"

.....

Not to mention the customers at my job.

-"Oh y'all better start now or you never will."

Okay, so you're saying having children is a twelve step program and if we don't start now we'll never quit smoking cigarettes?

-"Oh no, you better tell hubby that you're ready."

I'm not.

-"You want to wait how long? Don't you want to be young for your children?"

25 still seems young to me. I know the current trend is to start in your teens but I'm past those years anyway.

-"You said you want a dog first? What will that do?"

Clearly not everyone believes that fur babies are babies too.

I know I don't help when I say things like 'Oh I want one' or 'The baby fever is real', but both statements are true. I do want one. I actually want three. Or four. Or however many I'll actually end up with. We want to adopt, too. I told my best friend, once I got married it's like a tiny flame came alive within me. I have never longed to have children like I do now. She came back with "Well you better put that thing out!". I don't want to put it out but I am keeping a sharp eye on it.

Frankly, it just isn't time.

I also know that for the town I live in, we are choosing an odd path. Nearly all of my friends that are married had children within their first year of being married. It seems to be the thing these days. I think the reason both Kirk and I don't want to do that is neither of us were exactly planned. We were both 'surprises' to our mothers and after growing up knowing how that feels I'd rather be able to tell my future child about how we waited and planned and when they finally came along it was all we wanted.

And to everyone that cringes at the 'We want to wait five years' statement, Kirk and I have both acknowledged the fact that it probably won't be that long. Or it could be. Or it could be however long it takes to adopt a child. Point being, we aren't thinking of having a child right now and we aren't going to think about it for a while.

Let me make myself clear; neither of us are mad at anyone who has made a baby statement. Most of the time we're amused because the amount of people that are ready for us to have children right now is astounding.


I ain't pregnant and unless God sees fit to intervene in a big way I ain't going to be pregnant for a while, and that is perfectly okay with my husband and I. :)